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Are You Happy?

Do you think that at this moment you are happy? And I’m not just talking about the “I’m-marginally-content-with-life-right-now-but-that’s-it” kind of happy.

I’m talking about the kind of happy you are when you wake up in the morning and yes, you want to go back to sleep, but the idea of going through the day doesn’t give you a migraine. The kind of happy where sure, you may not LOVE your job but you’re not there from 9 to 7 glancing at the clock every time you can.You know, the kind of happy where you feel almost excited to experience whatever the hell life hurls your way.

Recently, I’ve learned that my definition of happiness is not merely the absence of conventionally negative emotions and events, but a combination of different things that sit on a “Not Crappy” to “Fucking Awesome” scale.

They say that when a writer is happy, that they are more likely to STOP writing. I didn’t care enough to authenticate the source of that statement nor look any deeper into it but based off of my own experiences, I’d say that’s more than accurate.

For the past few months I’ve found that my emotional state has gone from abysmal to generally cheerful, or at the very least untroubled. How I got to this place in my state of mind has been quite a trip.

It started a while back with an end to a relationship that had run its course. The relationship was unhealthy and truthfully toxic. I would say it was a mutual break up but others may think otherwise.

Following this was an end to a job that I despised. I was working a teaching job that I had no interest in doing, around colleagues who were lifeless and sucked any fun out of what was supposedly a “joyful and cheery” environment. I worked there for less than a month and every day felt like some intricate slow-torture-type punishment.

Now, I’m not a life coach and I certainly do not have my shit together. I am not qualified to tell you how to be happy or how to live your life. HOWEVER, what I can tell you is that, from my experience, it really does help to just generally have a more positive outlook on life and the first step to achieving that is to cut toxic shit out of your life.

Ultimately, cutting out all the negativity from your life is a good way to start out the “path to happiness” or whatever you want to call it. You cut the shit out and you’re left with a relatively clean slate to pave your way. This includes shitty relationships with lovers or frenemies, horrible bosses and colleagues as well as cutting out everything else that just makes you feel bad.

Are you happy? Because if your answer is anything but a plain “yes”, then you’ve probably got some work cut out for you.

That’s it for today’s pseudo-life coaching session. I hope that you’ve learned something from this post and really if you haven’t, I don’t care. I just want you to leave with this message in mind: